There are two preconditions for internal cohesion:
It is impossible to develop a high degree of internal cohesion if you have not learned how to manage the impact of your upsets (fear-based, conscious and subconscious beliefs) on your life. Fear in any form, prevents you from aligning the beliefs of the ego with the values of the soul, and aligning the energies of your ego with your soul’s purpose.
To achieve internal cohesion you must learn how to bond these two aspects of your personality—the ego and the soul—into a unique undifferentiated whole. If you have achieved some degree of personal mastery, then you will begin to experience internal cohesion.
Internal cohesion can be accelerated by spiritual practices such as meditation and yoga.
Individuation is the way you start the process of uncovering your true self.
Our parents, with all good intentions, impose their beliefs, standards and expectations, or lack thereof, on us, whether they are aware of it or not. By the time we reach adulthood, you have been thoroughly conditioned by your family environment and the culture you were brought up in. You are unaware of the mind conditioning that has occurred during your childhood and teenage years. We all begin our adult lives with a set of beliefs and assumptions that we own but are not ours. They totally condition our relationship to the world.
Finding out who we really are, free from this conditioning is called individuation. It takes courage to individuate, especially if you are close to your parents and siblings because when you challenge your beliefs and assumptions, you may also be challenging theirs. Standing tall, and expressing your needs and your values is not easy in such circumstances. However, this is what is necessary if you are going to individuate.
When you know who you really are, and have learned to express your true self, then you can move from individuation to self-actualization.
There are six stages involved in developing internal cohesion (self-actualization):